Dating apps were fun when I was in college and part of the time when I was out of college. But to me, it got old pretty fast. I moved back home after I graduated from UNI and I immediately re-downloaded Tinder…oh boy. Most of the guys that I ran into were guys that I knew, graduated high school with, who lived in my hometown or a surrounding town, or someone that I already met. Boring. I guess you could say that I wanted to meet new people, have something to do on the weekends, have someone take me out on a date but never wanted anything serious because I knew I wouldn’t stick around Pocahontas very long. But there were things that I learned from dating apps and maybe you should too.
- Pictures and biography are everything. I like a guy who smiles in their pictures, who shows who they really are like going on adventures, are active, enjoys pets, wanting to explore and showing his true self. Biographies are key, too. If your biography is short and NOT to the point…you were being swiped left.
- Don’t be afraid to message someone first. If you’re going to just creep on this person’s pictures over and over again and not even message them first, you’re totally wasting your time. Put your big girl pants on..or guy pants on, and message the person first. Shows that you have confidence and want to speak with them.
- Don’t give your number out or get someone’s number right away. That just shows that you are probably ‘desperate’ or even ‘easy’. Hate to say that but it’s totally true. Play hard to get. Or even make a little game out of it. For instance…tell me a few interesting facts and then I will give you my number…or something like that.
- A good pickup line will grab attention. But please, make sure it’s a good pickup line and nothing too cheesy…That person may not even respond back if you don’t have a good pick up line. Try a pickup line that no one has really even heard of.
- Dating apps are not for everyone. Which is totally true. Sometimes they are fun, sometimes you have good luck and sometimes you have bad luck. It’s always a hit or miss. But you decide what’s best for you.
As you guys may have known, Kane and I didn’t meet on a dating app. We are both at that age where we are over dating apps and we like to keep it traditional by meeting through friends, in which case, that’s exactly what happened. I’m not against dating apps what’s soever, it’s just something that isn’t for me.
If you don’t know the back story of how Kane and I met…let me break it down for you. After I moved to West Des Moines, a girl that I graduated with, Bre, had me go to one of her LipSense parties and plus she hadn’t seen me for a while. When I got there I met a girl named Megan and then eventually her husband, Kyle, had come to pick up their son. Megan and I started to become friends and then she eventually introduced Kane and I. (Kane is Kyle’s twin brother) Now the rest is history.
Kane and I both went to UNI. He was a communications major and I was public relations major (they basically go hand in hand). We eventually found out that we were in the same night class. Such a small world right!?
Not going to lie, it’s been the best six months of my entire life. He’s my best friend, an amazing person and such an incredible boyfriend. He’s constantly making me a better person and motivating me and encouraging me.
I hope those who are on dating apps, you find someone who’s special as Kane is to me. If you’re not using a dating app to find someone, best of luck and I hope you find someone, as well.
XO!
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